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Never say never.

Words to live by

Because it is when we say we never will, we do.

And do we ever really listen to ourselves? Some of us are notorious for putting our foot in our mouth.  When I say some of us, I mean me.   I wrote my rule book for living based on the stupid scenarios I find myself in, on, or on the outside of, idiot.  All of those are prepositions, and you shouldn’t end a sentence with a preposition, that’s where the idiot found it’s resting place. And I meant me, not you.  But,  if I can be consulted in a stupid scenario it is within the confines of a prepositional phrase.

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I am about to say something stupid.

I was in the car when something stupid was said.

I was on the phone when I said something stupid.

I was out of my mind when I said that.



You know, I barely graduated from high school?  I put the dingy in “dingy blonde.”  It was a  persona.  And in spite of my graduate studies, I still didn’t know what a prepositional phrase was until I taught first grade when I was 38-years-old.  And when I said it out loud, I was infuriated.  Something this simple couldn’t have been better explained to me???  A classroom full of littles stared back at me as I ranted.


And yes, if you are about, above, across, after, against, around, at, before, behind, below, beneath, beside, between, beyond, by, down, during, except, for, from, in, inside, into, like, near, of, off, on, out, outside, over, since, through, throughout, till, to, toward, under, until, up, upon, with, without and few others, you are in the midst of a prepositional phrase.

And in the midst of the preposition the stupid stuff is said.  Stuff we said we’d never say rolls off the tongue.

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I hadn’t heard a word about the recent Louisiana shooting until this afternoon.  And I am not here to even discuss it.  Since we moved back to the ranch, I haven’t had time to think about cable installation.  We haven’t missed it.



However, I received a prayer request from a friend who lives Baton Rouge.

She asked that we, please pray for her heart broken hometown.

I had to ask; I hadn’t heard.

And then I had to look, so I googled it.  The things that popped up in my news feed were alarming, to say the least. But more alarming? Those who are oblivious to the fact that we are the problem. Isn’t prejudice easily explained?  

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Our entire culture in infested with prejudice and those prejudices are rampant within every phrase of every race, religion, denomination, non-denomination, and supermarket line.  And you who say you would never, do it all the time. And, yes I mean me.


If you feel the need to whisper the description, you probably should just shut up.  Opps, you should probably just shut up, idiot. Just from this side of the fence, these are prejudices that have been whispered to me: Italicized for whispered word.

Is your baby’s daddy Mexican?

I can’t believe you have a white foster baby?

What is wrong with that baby?  Is it a crack baby?

I would think you’d only get black foster babies?

Sorry, I forgot your son was a Mexican when I told that joke.

You know I heard that girl was a lesbian?

Are there lots of white foster kids?

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How does whispering stupid stuff make it any less stupid?  If I end a sentence with a preposition, whispering doesn’t make it any less inaccurate?

And if we are going to be crazy honest, why not be bold?



Did you know, that in Texas if you adopt a white child out of foster care they don’t get financial support? What? Yep. So an orphaned, abandoned, abused, crisis white child needs less support than a black or Hispanic child?  Well, wait, more people want to adopt white children than minorities.  Seriously?  You said that out loud?  And actually, that’s not true anymore.  Thanks, Angelina Jolie now everyone wants a black baby.  Like a Fossil bag, it’s in style.  But if you adopt a little black baby boy out of foster care won’t he grow into a big black man?  Well yes, but he will better off having been raised white?  You mean white like the morbidly obese, toothless, barefoot white folks that patron my local Walmart?  And adoption isn’t for me, but I don’t think gays should be able to adopt either, well unless there are black children in need of home.

Oh. My. Stars.

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I don’t believe any of us can say we haven’t thought one or more  prejudice things.  I don’t think any of us can say we aren’t judgmental. We are judgmental beings.  And just when we say that we aren’t, we say something indicative of being just that, judgmental.


So never say never.  And never say you wouldn’t cause you might.  And don’t bother whispering, it doesn’t negate the power of your words, it only italicizes them. Furthermore, a prejudice can go beyond skin color to class, school district, and sin.  Sin is sin is sin.  And sure Jesus said, “go and sin no more,” but He didn’t say you should say it?

What He said was, take the log out of your eye before you go digging around trying to take a speck out of your neighbors.  So, all  Asians work at nail salons, Mexicans are cheap labor, black lives don’t matter, and all whites are ignorant and shop at Walmart.  If you are about, above, across, after, against, around, at, before, behind, below, beneath, beside, between, beyond, by, down, during, except, for, from, in, inside, into, like, near, of, off, on, out, outside, over, since, through, throughout, till, to, toward, under, until, up, upon, with, or without you can easily take offense to this.

Or, you can pray for those who are suffering, ask for eyes that you might see. You can breathe and think before you speak, and realize we all voice from the broken places. The simple places that seem so easily explained, a place where all the wrecked, wounded, suffering, and surrendered sit down at, idiot.

May your floors be sticky and your calling ordained.  Love, Jami

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

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