“I Am” Truths for Your Young Person’s Heart
Your young person’s heart is bombarded with the lies of the world. For this, I am sorry. But I firmly believe, this tool can help.
My older children would tell you, I would always tell them who they were, not what their
struggle was, and that is where the idea for Truths for Your Young Person’s Heart derived.
I remember this most vividly when my son Luke was about 13. This was absolutely the hardest
season of my parenting journey.
Luke was in big trouble. The death of a close family friend sent him spiraling out of control.
And I remember, all his friends called him “Pastor Luke,” prior to his fall.
So, I would speak this into my young person’s heart.
You are not a delinquent.
Son, you are not an addict or a criminal.
You are self-control.
And you are compassion.
You are pastor Luke.
To the same extent, we said this to the other children. Our son John, who struggled with
dyslexia, was told on the regular. You are clarity. Dear One, you are a genius. You are a leader.
What I have come to realize is this: It made a difference. But it wasn’t until someone said this to
me about our adopted sons, and I was left in terror.
“Sam will have an identity crisis because he has no history.”
And another, “If Charlie’s birth parents struggled with addiction, he probably will too.”
My four older children are all successful and balanced. Luke found his truth, he is definitely
pastor Luke. But what if, instead of me telling him who he was, he spoke that truth into
existence? I guess you could argue his struggles made him stronger, and more
compassionate. But, it was hard… risky.
And I fully believe, life isn’t meant to be lived up to chance. We were created by a Creative
genius who told us that life was meant to be lived in abundance. Our words matter. Greater
what comes out of our mouths matters.
The world is loud.
I want my young person to have a voice of truth that is burned into her brain, not just called
on when she is desperate.
So, young Charlie has been struggling with self-control at school. Every day I was reminding
him of who I believed he was. And that is when I started doing the “I am” bedtime routine.
My boys love this more than anything.
They tell everyone about it. And while Charlie’s behavior is changing, so is his confidence.
And, Sam’s self-worth has skyrocketed.
Recently our teenage daughter asked to attend school out of state… y’all in New
I am in the habit of telling my young people who they are and what they can be when faith is their
I made a set of Truths for Your Young Person’s Heart for Sophie.
Sometimes I say them to her. Other times, they
are just on her desk or I hand her one as she heads out the door. One of the hardest parts of
the parenting journey is letting them go. It does no good for my faith to be their faith. They
have to make it their own. And this practice is a great way for them to start speaking this
truth, have it planted in their subconscious, so deeply, a crisis is never an issue. They have the
answer. They have spoken it for themselves.
My goal is to make this a routine for millions of parents.
As a matter of fact, I feel so called to
this, I will be so bold as to say, I AM GOING TO BRING THIS TO MILLION OF PARENTS.
Furthermore, my hope is to eventually have hard copies published and give copies to foster
care agencies all over the country. Can you imagine, even if it was just one night, of speaking
these truths into the lives of foster children?
So I have drawn pictures for each of the I Am declarations. You print this, I printed mine on
card stock, 2 declarations on each 8.5×11 sheet. Cut them in half.
There are many options, but these are my suggestions.
Just say the I am… ask your snarky teen to humor you and say it back to you.
Give them the card! Say, “This is who you are!”
Put it in their lunch box or backpack. Tape one to the bathroom mirror. Or do them with
the family over dinner.
Here is the thing, we know what we want to instill in our young people. The I Am cards are a way
to cover much more ground, consistently.
I propose this is a methodical and loving way to not only speak truth over your child or your
young adult, or even giving the cards to your loved one, to carry with them, but a way to get
them to speak this truth about themselves!
Also included are some blank cards. Neither of my young sons struggles with learning but
say your child is. You can create a card for the opposite of their struggle.
I am a scholar.I am attentive.I am a great student. Or, what if they are in the middle of drama
I am a safe landing.
And, I am trust.
I am friend.
This is a speak truth program to your young person.
Jesus told us to speak about whatever is good, pure, and holy. (Phil 4:8)
I think you are about to embark on a whole new way of saying goodnight… with the whole
truth of who your child is…. I am thrilled for you and your littles!
And I am so excited as these downloads sell to get closer to my goal of providing foster
families with free copies.
So thank you for your investment.
I think you will love it as much as we do.
Jesus be all over you.
Questions? Email me!